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Sep
19

Single FAQs

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Joy Jochems - Single Moms Bloggersingle faqsWhat’s the last question a complete stranger asked you? (Okay, before you read that sentence.)  See if any of these sound familiar:

How old are your children?

Are they all yours?

Do you work outside the home?

Are you feeling tired?

How are you?

(Do you ever want to respond to that last one by crumpling to the floor and crying?)

Without a doubt, you could add some frequently-asked-questions of your own.  As a mother of twins, I’ve been asked some real “whoppers”. Obviously, I often hear, “Are they twins?” But sometimes it seems that a fascination with multiples clogs people’s filters for appropriate questioning, and I become subject to a medical history interrogation:

How long did you carry them?

Did you have them naturally? Conceive them naturally?

How much did they weigh? How much did you gain?

Are they identical? Do twins run in your family?

In addition to “twin-quiries”, I also have the blessing and responsibility of parenting a special-needs child. He’s a joy to our family and “fits just right”. But people are curious, and we get questions from time to time.

Was he born like that?

How come he can’t talk?

What’s wrong with him?

We have gracious responses for those questions, and we use them to direct the inquiring minds to the One who has all the answers. It provides an opportunity to testify about miracles, joys, blessings and God’s goodness.

There’s one other question I am frequently asked, and I hope that you will find the answers encouraging and helpful. You see, I’m not just a mother of twins or a mother of a special-needs child. I’m also a single parent.  Often I am called upon to respond to:

How do you do it?

I have a little cache of responses, some spiritual, some practical. Every circumstance is different, but I believe there are a handful of answers for anyone who needs a little “method for your madness”.

·        I invest in my relationship with God. As cliché as it sounds, I don’t make it through any of life’s bumps without Him (Isaiah 46:4). He gives me joy when I am broken (Psalm 30:11). He strengthens me when I am weak (Isaiah 40:29). He bestows wisdom when I’m at a loss (James 1:5). He provides when my resources are drained (Philippians 4:19). He fills me when I am empty (Ephesians 3:19).  Apart from Him, I can do nothing (John 15:5 ).

·        I ask for help. Friends, we cannot do it on our own. (God in His sovereignty knew I would need to learn to ask for help, so He gave me twins right off the bat!) My children and I are blessed with godly support. When we need a hand, we make a call. We reach out. We graciously allow others to minister to us and to bless us.

·        I let my house get a little messy from time to time. There are days when I have to make the choice: clean or help kids with homework? Dishes or devotions? Laundry or lingering on the couch with my children? Unexpected guests have come to accept that Martha doesn’t live here, but it is a home.

·        I take breaks. I get my hair done. I go for a jog. I read a CWAHM post or two. I go to a women’s retreat or Bible study. We all have different ways to refuel and reconnect. There are seasons when I need daily breaks, and there are periods when I go almost-too-long without one. But a burned-out mom has nothing to give, and then it’s the children that suffer.

This mom-job is not easy for anyone, regardless of circumstances. But it is possible, through Him who gives us strength (Philippians 3:14). And when you get right down to it, He is the only answer we need.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Joy Jochems has been in ministry literally her whole life. While Joy is actively involved with her local church as youth ministry coordinator and lends a hand at CWAHM as devotional coordinator and guest contributor, she recognizes that her primary ministry is in her home, to her children. You can contact Joy at joy@cwahm.com.

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