Archive for Just for Moms
We’ve cried and hurt.
We’ve felt lost, wounded, alone, misunderstood.
We’ve asked, “Why?” and “How do I survive this?”
And yet, we stand.
We make it to tomorrow. We see a new day dawn.
2 Corinthians 4:3-4 says:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
The implication is this: we’ve been in need of comfort ourselves a time or two! And through that comfort we receive, we are equipped to minister to others who find themselves on similar rough roads.
Maybe you’re hurting and desire for your friends to understand what you need. Maybe you need to be a comforter. Here are a handful of helps that others utilized in walking with me through periods of heartache, the same “helps” that I have also drawn from to minister to others in their times of need:
HOLD HER UP IN PRAYER. There is no greater help, no greater privilege, no greater ministry than intercession. We are taking to God Almighty the broken pieces and trusting into His capable hands the healing, the help, the hope of the hurting.
HELP HER HEAR TRUTH. God’s Word will accomplish its purposes (Isaiah 55:11). Text her Scripture, read the Bible to her, write verses on cards or sticky notes for her. Undoubtedly she’s hearing lies and battling darkness every day. Shut out the deceit with the voice of Truth. Illuminate the shadows with the Light of His presence. Our words can fail … God’s cannot. Read More→
Mary, Mary, not contrary,
I see how your love flows:
with oil spilled and hair unbound
and a heart that the Savior knows.
Often compared and contrasted with her sister Martha, there is an act of the maid Mary that is “stand alone.” From it we can glean nuggets of truth-gold and fashion them into jewels for our own lives.
The account of Mary anointing Jesus is depicted in three of the four Gospels (John 12:1-8; Matthew 26:6-13; Mark 14:3-9). Read the passages to refresh your memory of the details. In brief, it looks like this:
- Jesus, Mary, Martha, Lazarus, the disciples, and a slew of other people are gathered together in a home. We’ve seen a similar scene before.
- Mary comes to Jesus’ feet. Again, she’s been in that position before. But what she does next is surprising and somewhat strange.
- Mary breaks a jar filled with expensive, fragrant oil and dumps it on Jesus’ feet. And she’s not done yet!
- Mary unbinds her hair and uses it to wipe Jesus’ feet! Read More→
I am so excited to share about this single lady, I almost can’t sit still long enough to write her story! Through a Bible study and His Word, God uncovered for me several truths about Hagar that have placed her among my favorite Bible characters.
An Egyptian slave in the home of Abraham and Sarah, Hagar had undoubtedly heard of God Almighty. She had also been taken from her homeland and placed into service. As we learn in Genesis, it wasn’t always a “happy home” in which Hagar worked. (Take a few moments to read her story in Genesis 16 & 21).
All of the characters in this saga reap some less-than-desirable rewards for their decisions and actions. Jealousy arises, disdain grows, abuse ensues. Out of the chaos and conflict, a son is born. Ishmael, the offspring of Hagar & Abraham, bears the name that means “God hears”. He’s born to a mother who has already fled to the wilderness once. And when Ishmael is a teenager, both he and Hagar are sent packing. Hagar is battered and bitter, rejected by the father of her child, a single mom, alone, hopeless.
Yet from the ashes of her life, Hagar offers beautiful treasures that span the millennia and bring richness to our lives today… Read More→
My apologies upfront for luring you in with thoughts of chocolaty sweetness. Maintain that picture if it helps (or grab a few to munch on!), but promise me this: you’ll not discount the message when you discover whose initials we’re actually representing.
For the past few weeks, I have had the privilege of leading a women’s Sunday school class on Mary and Martha. (Was that a sigh I heard? I know their story is “over told” in Christian women’s circles, but hang in there with me! They have something to teach us about being a single lady, about being a Christian woman. Tradition and most commentaries do agree that neither woman married.) I continue to learn from and to be challenged by the things Scripture recounts about these two extraordinary women.
Our goal here is not to rehash service vs. sitting. We’re not trying to dissect intentions or personalities. What we are aiming for is nuggets of truth about relationship with Jesus as exemplified by Mary and Martha… Read More→
I need some goals. It is time to prayerfully make a plan and execute some follow-through…in my writing, in my day-to-day life, in my walk with Christ. Part of that plan includes this: a series on singles in Scripture and what we can learn from them. What better place to discover the guidance we need than the infallible Word of God! While my focus is “single ladies”, I am trusting God to bring about truths that will minister to any of you, in whatever circumstances you are facing.
Having just stepped out of the Christmas season, it seems appropriate to visit Anna as our first single lady. Not only that, her example holds some powerful truths for us! To refresh our memories, let’s look at her brief appearance in Scripture (Luke 2:36-38). Simeon had just prophesied over the baby Jesus (with Mary & Joseph looking on) when Anna comes on the scene:
There was also a prophet, Anna, the daughter of Penuel, of the tribe of Asher. She was very old; she had lived with her husband seven years after her marriage, and then was a widow until she was eighty-four. She never left the temple but worshiped night and day, fasting and praying. Coming up to them at that very moment, she gave thanks to God and spoke about the child to all who were looking forward to the redemption of Jerusalem. Read More→
As a stay at home mom, you can actually make money, and you can make a lot of it. How crazy is that to think about? Perhaps you’ve always had a particular passion, but as soon as you got married, your passion got lost in the business of housework and taking care of the children.
It used to be that women didn’t work at all. They have been homemakers for centuries. They learn to knit, cook, bake, sew, milk the cows…that sort of thing. The man was always the one bringing home the bacon. But the world has changed. Times were much simpler in a lot of ways back then.
It’s a debate on whether times were tougher then or now. Different times provide different obstacles, and all are difficult in their own ways. What’s exciting about today’s world is that even in the harsh times where there isn’t enough money to pay the bills, a woman has the opportunity to pick up her computer, make money from home, and take care of the children at the same time.
Sell Things Online
A majority of women have something they enjoy doing or making. For many, that’s sewing or crocheting cute hats, scarves, mittens, lampshades or anything else you’re creative heart desires. The more unique, the better. Consider taking those arts and crafts you love doing so much, and sticking them up online to turn over a profit.
The opportunity to sell online is limitless. You can choose from hundreds of different outlets and you can sell whatever it is that you want. The beautiful thing about the internet is that the whole world is your consumer. There is a buyer for everything, the trick is doing your research to find the best niche for the product you’re selling.
Use The Internet As Your Platform
Think about it. Even as a stay at home mom, you have down time to get things done. Maybe you’re content with life and in between your child’s naptime you like to do the dishes or watch the latest episode of your favorite show, but that’s not the way it has to be. Read More→
“There, by the Ahava Canal, I proclaimed a fast, so that we might humble ourselves before our God and ask him for a safe journey for us and our children, with all our possessions.“
Several months ago I found myself struggling with discontent. Somehow I was frustrated with juggling work, kids, family and life – annoyed that I had so much responsibility. At every little interruption or act of disobedience from the kids I would get snappy.
I started asking God the reason for my attitude. “Why am I reacting so badly?” I wondered.
He spoke into my spirit, “Stop expecting it to be easy. I didn’t promise an easy life but that I have the strength that you need for all of life.”
Was it true? Was I expecting life to be easy?
Truth be told how many of us have that thought? Let’s look at some of the things we say and other people say:
- I can’t wait for my kids to get a little older when they can play together better.
- I can’t wait for the kids to be school so I have more time.
- I can’t wait till……
In our minds we think that life will get easier; that the next stage of life will be somewhat easier than this one. This attitude focuses our minds away from the present. Leaving us with less mental capacity to deal with the challenges we are currently facing.
But how could I change my view point?
I had been focusing my mindset on the things I could do to make my life easier. My mind was going in a thousand different directions thinking of things like:
- Maybe I should hire a house cleaner
- It would free up my time if one kid was in preschool and one in public school.
- How can I work more hours?
- If only I had a husband who did laundry. Read More→
by Sherri Wilson Johnson
Before I became a mother, I worked outside of the home. When I added “Mother” to my title, I quit my job and basked in the loveliness (not always) of raising my children. And then reality hit, debts mounted, “rice and beans” and macaroni and cheese got OLD, and I realized I needed to find a source of income and help my hubby, who slaved away every day trying to earn a living.
At first, I tried daycare but they assigned me to a room that my daughter wasn’t in and I couldn’t stand hearing her cry (scream, wail, explode) for me from down the hall. My heart was ripped out on a daily basis. So I quit that job after only a week. Yes, I was weak then. I’m not too prideful to admit it.
Then I tried selling Avon. By this time, I had a three-year-old and a newborn. People often frown on an Avon Rep with two little children in tow. So that “earn $5,000 a month and work from home” job didn’t suit me or my children at all. Nor did it bring in anywhere near that amount of money!
After a few years, God called me to homeschool. It was clear at that point that I wouldn’t be working outside of the home. In fact, my original dream was to become a full-time writer once the children were both in school. God has a funny way of redirecting our paths. Read More→
When Sabrina Malone of WorkingMom.com realized that her kids needed some extra accountability for their behaviors she took away their electronics. However, she also made a way that her children could earn points based on behavior and be rewarded with “electronics time.”
According to Sabrina, “Sometimes, you’ve just got to go Corporate/Professional for matters of hearth and home. Accountability. Standards. Metrics.”
She also shared a few quotes that she heard from her 6 kids upon receipt of the standards:
“You know, this says ‘immediately’ a lot…”
“Isn’t this slavery?”
“Shouldn’t we get an allowance if we do all this?”
“No other parent in the world treats their kids like this.”
Do you face this same issue in your family? Do you have a set list of standards for them to follow?
Download Sabrina’s Daily Behavior Checklist (.xls) and see if it will work for you!
And check out WorkingMom’s Online Child To-Do List Maker – you can add their names and specific tasks for each child.