It’s partly my nature. I’ve never been “officially” diagnosed, but the evidence is just too clear to ignore: I have ADD. For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a short attention span and an inherent impatience when things seem to be taking too long to materialize. Finally, as an adult, I figured out there’s a name for it!
But it’s more than that. As a work-at-home mom, I find that I’m always trying to navigate the tricky balance between pursuing work goals and being flexible and available for the needs of my family.
I’ve had to be very deliberate about focused and realistic goal setting. Over the years, I’ve learned some strategies that help me to break down those goals into simple, manageable steps that don’t bore or overwhelm me.
Whether you’re a super-focused mom (bless you!) or one who struggles to keep from going down rabbit trails (like me!), I believe these methods will help you as you formulate your goals:
- Go to the Boss. I’ve learned the hard way that when I pursue goals without consulting the Holy Spirit, I just spin my wheels. I make it a habit to go to Him and ask for clear direction. And He never disappoints. He either gives me a peace or a sense of uneasiness that serves as my guide.
Years ago, I found this verse and have been using it as inspiration as I seek His will in my work and ministry: “Whether your turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it. ‘” Isaiah 30:21 Read More→
Principle: Make Informed Decisions
Scripture(s): Proverbs 14:8 “The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.”
Whether in business or life, decisions are made daily that determine your success or failure. Imagine putting on a blindfold and being asked to choose between two different shades of blue. Without the input from your eyes, making that decision would be near impossible. That’s kind of what making an uninformed decision is like, too. Input is necessary. Hoping for success while making blind decisions is nothing more than taking a shot in the dark.
Proverbs tells us, in multiple verses, of the importance of making informed decisions. In fact, Proverbs 22:3 tells us that there’s a price to pay for not making a prudent [informed] decision: “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.” Applying this verse to success in life and business means the penalty one would pay would be, in fact, the antithesis of success: failure.
Long of the short: If you truly want success in life and business, make informed decisions as opposed to snappy, rash and blind decisions. Here are a few tips of ensuring your decisions are informed. Read More→
Once again, we come to the time of year when we celebrate the Fourth of July in remembrance of all the wonderful things this country means to us. The celebration will include fireworks, parades and picnics when the hot dog will be king for a day. It is a wonderful time of the year.
Yet, in the midst of all of the celebrations, there are a few black clouds blocking the sunlight.
Just the other day the Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage and I were watching a news program where they featured somebody offended by the American flag displayed in a meeting they were attending. We both looked at each other and sadly shook our heads. What kind of nonsense is going on in this country? People’s lives are so shallow that they have to try to think of something to be offended?
I am not sure why the American flag offended them so, but I have the perfect solution. I am not sure why people do not think of solutions like this, but if the American flag offends you then go to a country that has a flag it does not offend you. Simple. Problem solved. No more offense.
It would not offend me in the least if people would do this.
The American flag reminds us of all the wonderful things we enjoy in this country. The Fourth of July is an opportunity to express our thanks for living in a country such as this. If this was such a terrible country, why are so many people trying to get in at all cost? We still have some freedoms here that the rest of the world is envious of. The flag represents the foundation of our country and the ongoing sacrifice that has kept it free for so long. How can that be offensive to anybody?
At the same time another story on the news caught our attention concerning the 9/11 museum in New York City. From some of the things I am seeing on TV most of the people in Americahave forgotten what happened on 9/11. Somebody walked in, saw the symbol of the cross and became physically ill by it. They claim the cross made them sick in the stomach.
This was a little confusing to me. These are people who say they do not believe in God, personally, I do not believe a word they say. Here is this person, who does not believe in God, who does not believe in religion, sees a religious symbol and becomes offended and physically ill by it. They surely need help and I recommend a group of industrial-strength psychiatrists and therapists along with a team of military medical doctors to pump out their stomach. Read More→
Strengthening Your Marriage: The 5 P’s
This is part two of my series on affairs. No one wakes up and says to themselves, “I think I’ll have or start an affair today.” It’s small, ordinary decisions we make every day, sometimes without thinking it through.
What follows is adapted in part from the book, “Affair Proof Your Marriage” by Lana Staheli, Ph.D. The 5 P’s are a simple, yet easy to implement into your marriage. The earlier you start making these permanent, the easier marriage will be. It is never too late to start something new in your marriage, so don’t despair if haven’t. There is always hope!
#1: Be a Planner! Think about it. When a couple first begins dating and getting serious with each other, they plan everything, don’t they? “When can I see you?” “What time are you coming over?” or “What are we doing this weekend?” You talk, and talk, and talk some more. You hang out. You ARE so intentional. Why do we stop then? This is a great habit to keep up! Sure, marriage is a huge adjustment from singlehood, and it has some unique challenges, but planning for your time together is a MUST in my opinion. Babies come, health issues arise, jobs relocate you perhaps. These normal occurrences should then make planning time to connect, be intimate, and enjoying one another’s company all the more a priority.
#2: Be Playful! Unless you wanted to and did marry a ‘stick-in-the-mud’ person, you probably had LOTS of fun with your spouse, didn’t you? We marry in part, because “He makes me laugh” or “He’s fun to be around”. We like as well as love being with him. This is usually easy in the beginning. (Isn’t everything easy in the beginning? The first mile in a marathon IS SO easy. Addition is easy in 3rd grade-well, at least it was for me–not until 8th grade did algebra do me in! Luckily I changed schools and took it all over again in 9th and it made more sense!) Don’t let the responsibility and duties of adulthood and parenthood consume you at the expense of letting the fun go out of your marriage. I believe every 5 -8 years a couple may have to reinvent their fun. Look for new things to do together. This playfulness can also be applied to your physical intimacy. Don’t get too boring in the bedroom! Be a little creative. Read More→
One of the most common problems many people face when trying to achieve their goals is procrastination. We know what we want to do. We know what we should do. Yet we spend countless hours watching television and sitting on the couch basically doing nothing. There is nothing wrong with resting. Our minds and bodies require it for us to live healthy lives but too much of doing nothing means that the important things, like working on our goals are not getting done.
So what can you do to stop procrastinating and start living your life more fully? Here are four tips to help you stop procrastinating and starting living the life you desire.
1. Stop thinking. Start doing.
Success favors the prepared mind. A little planning will certainly help you achieve your goals. However, too much planning and thinking tends to have the opposite effect. You plan and plan and try to come up with the “perfect idea.” Your “perfect idea” is one that everyone will love and one that is guaranteed to succeed. Well I hate to break it to you, but such an idea does not exist. And the longer you take to try to create such an idea the more time you are wasting.
The key to success is to plan a little and then take action. So stop thinking. Start doing no matter how you feel and what you think about your idea.
2. Just take the first step.
When you start to look too far into the future any task can seem impossible to achieve. That is one of the reasons why it is good to plan for the future but then to stay focused on today and the present moment.
This way you put all your energy into taking the first step. Once you’ve taken the first step, you are well along your way. The key to success is simply getting started. When you take the first step, you change your attitude; you become optimistic and eager to move forward. Read More→
Principle: Keep Wise Counsel
Scripture(s): Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to counsel.”
This summer we’ve been looking at various principles of success found in the wisest book of the Bible, Proverbs. Today’s principle deals with wise counsel. You see, it’s not only important, but essential to keep wise counsel. As Proverbs 12:15 points out, though your plans might sound good in your head, it’s good to run them by another to ensure they are not foolish. In fact, today, I’m going to let Proverbs talk for itself as it offers up numerous passages about keeping wise counsel: Read More→