Don’t forget the Groom!
Are you planning a wedding or have you recently ‘tied the knot’? If so are you leaving or have you left out your Fiancé? Lets face ladies, the wedding is really all for you. You’ve planned for this day your whole life. You know exactly what, when, where, and how the wedding should and WILL go. You can visualize what type of and how many flowers you will be using and whether they will be silk or real. You know exactly where everyone will stand and what everyone will say. And I’m convinced that the majority of you get exactly what you want. The wedding companies know this, by the way, and suck you into buying as many unnecessary things that you can think of and at prices that people in their right frame of minds wouldn’t even consider. Don’t be pressured into debt because of how our society tells us to have a wedding.
Anyway you’ve finally finished the perfect wedding except for one thing…you’ve forgotten your husband-to-be. Oh he’s there all right but I assure you that he is just along for the ride. We all know what the guy is thinking about. He’s thinking "lets find the nearest JP and head for the honeymoon." But he endures your endless ramblings about dresses, cakes, pictures, china patterns, place settings, flowers, and decorations while watching the savings account take a nose dive. He faces an endless sea of gifts that you can only use in the kitchen or the bathroom while dreaming that the next gift will be a new laptop or stereo. He even sells his brand new motorcycle so you can have a little extra money. Let me assure you that any guy who lovingly sits back and waits for the Wedding Planner in his life to finally put the finishing touches on the church is deeply in love with you and is showing you his love by being patient, kind and unselfish. The least you could do is acknowledge his unstereotypical attitude with a word of thanks. Surely if you can manage to spend a small fortune on your wedding you could sacrifice a couple of roses to purchase a special gift for you new husband. I suggest a small gift, maybe something that has gigabytes or involves his favorite sporting event.
I must admit that I just had the best wedding in the world. My new wife was wonderful. Not only was she extremely frugal but she also altered her dreams to fit our budget and she was never uptight about something if it didn’t go exactly as planned. She got me a wonderful gift and we had an awesome time on our honeymoon. I must admit, however, that even though my wife was not the typical bride, I still found myself battling feelings of being left out. I can just imagine what some guys are feeling especially if his bride suffers from ‘wedding obsessive compulsiveness’. So whether your BIG DAY is soon or already long past take a moment or too and make sure that the man in your life knows that you appreciate him and his sacrifice for your "perfect" day. But above all make sure you both follow God’s prescription for love. (I Corinthians 13)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Brandon Santan is a 30 year old male married for three years and currently living in Chattanooga TN. He is currently working on a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology with a duel specialty in Marriage and Family Therapy and Sexual Addiction. He and his wife have a strong God given burden for the hearing impaired and are called to one day be in the ministry full time working with the Deaf and Hard of Hearing.
